Educate Children

The cooperation is part of the task of Educate the Children and is a great alternative to leave the punishment that ultimately, often fail as a method to encourage obedience.These are 8 basis proposals to encourage cooperation of children and encourage obedience. As the child grows and changes, these proposals have to be tailored to their age. Therefore, they are a good script you should always have on hand.

1 - Involve your child in action.

A very appropriate phrase, especially during the early years is "Now, we will ...." And you teach and support to do so. You give alternatives, not many, 2 or 3, depending on age and what comets.Create routines and patterns with it.Children learn well with the routine that will help them be independent. You can create routines for almost every aspect of their daily activities: getting up to go to bed, dressing, etc ... They like to know what to do and always do the same. You can create a poster with drawings or pictures of things to do that will help guide you and ask, "and now get to do what?"Alternatives.Given a list of alternatives, the child feels important. It has the power to choose and also given the opportunity to work their ability to think of having to think about what to choose. At early ages, alternatives that provide the ability to help are the most chosen and desired by the child. For example: "Do you want to load in the car your toys or your blanket? You decide. “Add "you decide" makes you feel important. If you propose an alternative, he says, "This was not a possibility. You can choose between "this" or "this". "Provide opportunities to extend its help.It is an ideal way to prevent the occurrence of situations that lead to disputes and promote, by contrast, moments of approach. If you often resist getting into the car, you can say "Can you take the car keys and open the doors?" Sure, faster access and content.

2 - Show respect by being respectful.

The only way the child learns how to respect and obedience is seeing it in practice that is, imitating the people around you.If you are ashamed or humiliate with words like "seem deaf because you do what I say" or "you're a stubborn because you do what you want and not what I ask," what you're dealing with disrespect and just get the child to learn to treat others the same way disrespectful. If you're in the park, you can not pretend that suddenly stop playing when you say "come on, we're going." He is comfortable playing and do not understand. A right thing to do is tell and say, "In 5 minutes we're going." If you can bring an alarm clock, you ask him to help set the minute, I put in my pocket and when it rings, be prepared to leave. Surely in this way, or similar patterns, you can avoid many arguments.

3 - Use your sense of humor. Make up fun challenges.

Nobody ever said that s be a father should be boring or unpleasant. The laughs are usually a common way to handle a situation.You must be imaginative and think of fun ways to perform tasks unattractive, "I wonder if you can put on your pajamas faster than Mom." It's amazing how kids can resist a direct order, but act immediately if you tell them, for example, "I do not think you can pick up the toys before they have finished counting to 10, can you?”

4 - Understand your world. Enter their world.

It is essential that as a parent understand the needs and limitations of your child at various stages of development. Understand their world means seeing situations from their perspective, putting in place, and recognizing their skills and difficulties.We need to ask more often "How I would act if I were your age?"Empathy does not mean that you agree with his attitude, but you understand it. If you're in the park and it's time to leave. The child refuses after notice, you come and hug and saying, "I understand that you dislike leaving the park now and you want to keep playing, but it is time to leave." Keep embrace a few seconds to take their feelings. In this situation you've shown empathy, you said that you understand, but you've shown your disagreement with what he wanted in a loving way. If you had given in to stay a little longer, it would have given him the opportunity to learn through their own experience that is able to survive times of frustration.

5 - Speak when you are sure what you want to say. Comply with what is said firmly and lovingly.

The child usually tells when you say things with conviction and when not. Therefore, it is best to speak little to say only what is necessary! So, you use words to show what he can do and not waste energy or time and avoid punishment for what he has done. Speak many words often leads to discussions or "wars" Wish. The few words you say must be spoken without anger but so firm and kind.

6 - Be patient.

Psych is absolutely necessary that the task of educating your child is and continues fairly constant over time until it's ability to understand. You can encourage children to share small, but do not expect you to understand why you must do when you do not fancy. If not do it, we must understand that it is a normal attitude is these early years and is not to challenge behavior. We can offer toys to other children and lovingly withdraw the object of contention for a while.

7 - Provide close supervision, distraction and redirection.

Rudolf Dreikurs said "shut up and act." It is best to minimize and maximize actions words.It is much more effective to take the child by the hand and lead you where to go or to teach what to do instead of saying "do not go there" or "do not do this." For example, say "do not hit the dog" should replace "see, look, you stroke it like that" and do with it. If you realize that the child does not understand the "No" in the way that you think it should, it is better to implement alternatives that tell how to do it.

8 - Accept that your child is unique.

You have to remember that each child develops at a different pace and showing different skills. If you expect or ask your child to do something that really can not do, then there is the frustration both you as a mother, as it not meets your expectations. Avoid this situation being well aware of their capabilities and skills. If your young child cannot sit still in a restaurant and the sons of your friends do, you should not be frustrated, you have to understand and decide if you will only eat at restaurants when you can leave him with grandparents or, wait a mature your child to go to restaurants with him also.These 8 ways to encourage the cooperation of our son should be a basic script for the daily task of raising children is no longer a constant dispute situations and frustrations. Are guidelines to be applied every day with perseverance, choosing the best to work each time depending on your mood and your child


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